25种肢体语言

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1、练习避开这25种消极的肢体语言。我说两种语言：肢体和英语梅西在体前，握紧东西一一一个咖啡杯，笔记本，手袋等。在体前握紧东西，暗示出羞怯和抵抗心理，以便于你能够躲在物体之后，尽力使自己和他人保持一定距离。如果可以的话,不要把东西放在体前，而是放在身旁。1. 查看时间或者是检查自己的指甲一一无聊的明确迹象。当你在和其他人说话的时候，不要看时间。同样，也要完全避免查看自己的指甲。2. 如果你在谈话期间，脱掉衣服，特别是在你该接话的时候，还看向下方，多数人会以为你不同意他们的意见或不知该如何他们一个中肯的意见。不要这样。3. 当看着对方时，摸自己的下巴一一我在估量你”。在做决定的时候，人们常会摸自己的

2、下巴。如果你一边摸下巴一边看着对方，他们会认为你在估量他们。眯上眼睛一一如果你想给人留下的印象是：你不喜欢他们或不喜欢他们的想法，那么就在看他们的时候，眯上眼睛。愁容立刻浮现在你脸上。稍微眯上眼是动物王国里，所有动物本能并通用的表情，（想想老虎，狗等愤怒的表情）。一些人在交谈时错误地眯上眼睛，然而事实上他们只是在思考。不要传达给人错误的信息，不要眯上眼睛。4. 站得太近一一这只会让人感到不舒服。大多数人把自己身体周围的4平方英尺视为个人空间。只有与好朋友和亲密伴侣时，可以跨越这个无形的边界。5. 在其他人在场时，向下看一一通常暗示了没兴趣。有时甚至被视为是不经意的傲慢讯号。当看见认识人时，要向

3、前看，有眼神交流。6. 谈话时，摸自己的脸一一脸的碰触，尤其是鼻子，最常被认为是欺骗的信息。盖住自己的嘴，也是常见的人们说谎时的讯号。说话的时候，把手从脸上移开。7. 假笑一一另一个常见的面部欺骗信息。一个真正的微笑，眼角会皱起，整张脸都会随之变化。假笑只是嘴和唇动。两者很容易区别。除了拍照时，否则不要强迫自己去笑。8. 对你喜欢的人，身体后倾是一种厌倦和不感兴趣的讯息。有些人也把它解释为：我不喜欢你”。人们通常对自己喜欢的人，身体前倾，远离不喜欢的人。尤其是坐在同一个桌子的时候。如果你离自己喜欢的人远的话，你就表错了信息。9. 把手放在头后或臀部一一通常被解释为有优越感或大头症。只有对自己亲

4、密的朋友，才可以做这个动作。10. 不正面与你说话的人一一这表明了不舒服或不感兴趣。当我们热衷于谈话时，脚和身躯都会正面朝向对方。当对着我们不感兴趣的人和谈话时，脚和身体会自动转向另一边。谈话时，正面对方，会给对方留下的印象是：你对他说的话真的感兴趣。双臂交叉一一一种防范的讯号。有些人把它理解为是一种自负的表现。要把你的双臂展开或放在两侧。显示疲弱姿势一一当你在一个熙来人往的环境下，你的姿势就会成为你留给人自信与镇定的既定印象。你的站姿，表明你的立场，清楚地传达了这个讯息，你应该受到怎样的待遇。它可以发挥巨大的差异，在陌生人回应你的方式上。脚适度地岔开，背挺直，头朝上，打招呼时，要直视对方或坚

5、定的握手。11. 挠后脑和后颈一一表示怀疑和不确定。也被看作是说谎的讯号。当和其他人交谈的时候，尽量让手远离头部。12. 揪衣领一一表明：我觉得很不舒服或紧张”再次，随时握您的手中。不要摆弄你的衣领。13. 眨眼的频率增加一一明显焦虑。有些人接话时，因紧张，随着心跳加快，眨眼的频率也会增加。因为大多数人都会对视，这样就会立刻被对方发现。当紧张的时候，尤其是有人近距离看你时，留意一下自己的眨眼。14. 耷拉肩膀一一缺乏自信。超有自信的人会挺直肩膀。让你的肩膀一直向挺直。你不仅会看上去有自信，也会感到有信心。站立时，双手交叉放在下体上这个不经意的动作，一定会让你在开口说话之前，就失去一部分的尊重。

6、人们在紧张和不自信的时候，会情不自禁的做出防伪姿势。他们通常会对自己最脆弱的地方，采取这种防伪姿势。这种姿势会让你肩膀向前，会让你整个身体显得更渺小，更脆弱。再次提醒，把手放在身体侧面或后面。#p#分页标题#e#15. 用手托着自己的头我已经厌倦了”交谈时，不要用肘或手去托自己的头。把手放在你前面的桌子上并让它们休息。16. 用你的汗手往衣服上蹭一一一个极度紧张的讯息。如果你的手正出汗，就让它出汗。深呼吸，尽力放松。17. 坐在椅子的一边一一清楚的表明：精神和身体都不舒服。这是一个不安的姿势，会让周围人也跟着你不安。让你屁股安定地坐在椅子上。当你要向前倾时，用你的背向前即可，不要移动自己的屁股

7、。23脚和手指轻敲一一通常暗示出，有压力，不耐烦或厌烦。留意自己的习惯，练习让自己的四肢放松。24. 用手摆弄小东西一一一只笔，纸球等。又是一个焦虑的信号。也可以解释为缺乏准备。当你和他人会面时，尽量把双手自然放松。25. 反复转动自己一一也是一种精神和身体不舒服的表现。人们也许会认为，你不想再继续这次谈话，尤其是你还没有直面他们。不要每2，3分钟就转动自己的脚，频率超过次。译文：25ActsofBodyLanguagetoAvoidOurbodyIanguageexhibitsfarmoreinformationabouthowwefeelthanitispossibletoarticula

8、teverbally.Allofthephysicalgestureswemakearesubconsciouslyinterpretedbyothers.ThiscanworkfororagainstusdependingonthekindofbodyIanguageweuse.Somegesturesprojectavery,whileothersdonothingbutsetanegativetone.MostpeoplearetotallyoblivioustotheirownbodyIanguage,sothedisciplineofcontrollingthesegesturesc

9、anbequitechallenging.Mostofthemarereflexiveinnature,automaticallymatchinguptowhatourmindsarethinkingatanygivenmoment.Nevertheless,withtherightinformationandalittlepractice,wecantrainourselvestoovercomemostofournegativebodyIanguagehabits.Practiceavoidingthese25negativegestures:IspeaktwoIanguages,Body

10、andEnglish.1. -MaeWestrehieHoldingObjectsinFrontofYourBody-acoffeecup,notebook,handbag,etc.Holdingobjectsinfrontofyourbodyindicatesshynessandresistanee,suchthatyoubehindtheobjectsinanefforttoseparateyourselffromothers.Insteadofcarryingobjectsinfrontofyou,carrythematyoursidewheneverpossible.2. Checki

11、ngtheTimeorInspectingYourFingernails-astrongsignofboredom.Neverglaneeatthetimewhenyourespeakingwithsomeone.Likewise,completelyavoidtheactofinspectingyourfingernails.3. PickingLintOffofYourClothes-Ifyoupicklintoffofyourclothesduringaconversation,especiallyinconjunctionwithlookingdownwards,mostpeoplew

12、illassumethatyoudisapproveoftheirideasand/orfeeluneasyaboutgivingthemanhonestopinion.Leavethelintalone!4. StrokingYourChinWhileLookingatSomeone-“Imjudgingyou!”Peoplefrequentlystroketheirchinduringthedecision-makingprocess.Ifyoulookatsomeonewhileyourestrokingyourchin,theymayassumethatyouremakingajudg

13、mettatdecisionthem.NarrowingYourEyes-Ifyouwanttogivesomeonetheimpressionthatyoudontlikethem(ortheirideas),narrowyoureyeswhilelookingatthem.Itimmediatelyplacesascowlingexpressiononyourface.Aslightnarrowingoftheeyesisaninstinctual,universalexpressionofangeracrossvariousspeciesintheanimalkingdom(thinka

14、bouttheangryexpressionsoftigers,dogs,etc.).Somepeoplemakethemistakeofnarrowingtheireyesduringaconversationasareflexofthinking.Donpeoplethewrongtsendmessagedontnarrowyoureyes.5. StandingTooClose-Thisjustmakespeoplefeeluncomfortable.Mostpeopleconsiderthe4squarefeetofspaceimmediatelysurroundingtheirbod

15、ytobepersonalspace.Crossthisinvisibleboundarywithgoodfriendsandintimatematesonly.6. LookingDownWhileinthePreseneeofOthers-usuallyindicatesdisinterest.Sometimesitseveninterpretedasacasualsignofarroganee.Alwayslookstraightaheadandmakeeyecontactwhenyouseesomeoneyouknow.7. TouchingYourFaceDuringaConvers

16、ationFacetouching,especiallyonthenose,iscommonlyinterpretedasanindicationofdeception.Also,coveringupthemouthisacommongesturepeoplemakewhentheyre.Alwayskeepyourhandsawayfromyourfacewhenyourespeaking.two.Dontforceyourselftosmileuniessitsforthe.8. LeaningAwayFromSomeoneYouLike-asignofbeingboredanddisin

17、terested.Somepeoplemayalsointerpretittomean:Idontlikeyou.”Peopletypicallyleantowardspeopletheylikeandawayfrompeopletheydislike.Thisisespeciallytruewhentheyaresittingaroundatable.Ifyouleanawayfromsomeoneyoulike,youresendingthemthewrongmessage.9. RestingHandsBehindtheHeadorontheHips-usuallyinterpreted

18、asasignofsuperiorityorbigheadedness.Onlyusethesegestureswhenyoureinthepreseneeofclosefriends.10. NotDirectlyFaeingthePersonYoureSpeWkingnTieates-eertainlevelofdiscomfortoralackofinterest.WhenwegagedOppilyonversationwefacethepersonwerespeakingtowithourfeetandtorsofacingdirectlyforward.Whenweunsureoft

19、heotherperson,ornotcompletelycommittedtotheconversation,wetendtoangleourfeetandtorsototheside.Facedirectlyforwardduringaconversationtogiveofftheimpressionthatyouretrulyinterestedinwhattheotherpersonissaying.11. CrossingYourArms-asignofdefensiveresistanee.Somepeoplemayalsointerpretitasasignofegotism.

20、Alwaystrytokeepyourarmsopenandatyoursides.12. DisplayingaSluggishPosture-Whenyoureinanenvironmentbustlingwithpeopleyourbecomesanimmediatetelltalesignofyourconfideneeandcomposure.Yourstaneeliterallymakesastandforyou,deliveringaclearmessageabouthowyoushouldbetreated.Itcanmakeahugediffereneeinthewaystr

21、angersrespondtoyou.Placeyourfeetacomfortabledistaneeapart,keepyourshoulderspulledback,headupandgreetpeoplewithdirecteyecontactandafirmhandshake.recommunicatingwithothers.13. MessingWiththeCollarofYourShirtTtscreams:Ifeelhorriblyuncomfortableand/ornervous!”Onceagain,keeptrackofyourhands.Dontfidget.14

22、. IncreasingYourRateofBlinking-aclearsignofanxiety.Somepeoplestartblinkingtheireyesreallyfast(inconjunctionwithanincreasedheartrate)whentheygetnervous.Sincemostpeopletrytomakeeyecontact,itbecomesimmediatelyobvioustoothers.Becognizantofyourblinkinghabitswhenyourenervous,especiallyifsomeoneislookingat

23、youfromacloseproximity.SlouchingYourShoulders-indicateslowself-esteem.Peopleassociateperked-upshoulderswithstrongself-confidenee.Alwayspullyourshouldersback.Notonlywillyoulookmoreconfident,youllfeelmoreconfidentaswell.15. StandingwithYourHandsCrossedOverYourGenitals-Thiscasualposturealmostguarantees

24、thatyoulllosealittlerespectbeforeyouevenhavetfedtbaspeakasingleword.Peoplefeelingnervousorunsureofthemselveswillunconsciouslytakeaguardedstanee.Quitefrequentlytheyadoptaposturethatguardsoneoftheirmostvulnerableareas,theirgenitals.Thisstaneepushesyourshouldersforwardandmakesyourentirebodylooksmallera

25、ndweaker.Again,trytokeepyourhandsatyoursidesandyourshouldersback.16. ProppingUpYourHeadwithYourHands-Imgettingbored!”Neverpropupyourheadwithyourelbowsandhandsduringaeonversation.Placeyourhandsonthetableinfrontofyouandkeepthematrest.17. WipingSweatyHandsontoYourClothes-asignoffrantienervousness.Ifyou

26、rhandsaresweating,justletthemsweat.Takeafewdeepbreathsandtrytorelax.18. SittingontheEdgeofYourChair-aclearindieationofbeingmentallyandphysicallyuncomfortable.Itsanapprehensivestaneethatwillmakeothersaroundyoufeeluncomfortableaswell.Keepyourrearendfirmlyplantedonthesurfaceoftheseat.Whenyouleanforward

27、,useyourbackwithoutmovingyourbottom.19. FootandFingerTapping-usuallyindicatesstress,impatieneeorboredom.Monitoryourhabitsandpracticekeepingyourlimbsatrest.20. UsingYourHandstoFidgetwithSmallObjects-apen,paperball,etc.Thisisanothersalwaysbkeepyourhandscomfortablyatrestwhenyoureinthepreseneeofothers.21. RepeatedlyShiftingBodyWeightfromFoottoFoot-Thisisanothergesturethatusuallyindicatesmentalandphysicaldiscomfort.Peoplemayalsoseethisandassumethatyourereadytoabandontheconversation,especiallyifyourenotdirectlyfacingthem.Dontshiftyourfeetaroundmorethanonceevery2to3minutes.