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1、Evaluation Warning: The document was created with Spire.Doc for .NET.西方礼仪(Western Manners)Meetiing andd Grreettingg PeeoplleIn Puubliic PPlaccesIntrooducctioonSpeciial OcccasiionssInvittatiionWith Strranggerss annd FFrieendssIn thhe HHomeePersoonall Haabitts aand ApppearrancceTablee MaanneersSome Po

2、iintss foor MMenIn Scchoool西方礼仪精选相关链接:西方风情 商务礼俗 Some Common Manners in the West编辑 整理理It iss a greeat hellp ffor thee peersoon wwho is leaarniing a fforeeignn laanguuagee too knnow somme ccusttomss annd mmannnerss foor tthe peooplee whho sspeaaks it, beecauuse thee laanguuagee iss veery clooselly aas

3、soociaatedd wiith theem. I wwilll teell youu soome commmonn weesteern mannnerrs.1. Meeetiing andd Grreettingg Peeoplle1) GrreettinggThe ssimpplesst tthinng tto ssay is Goood morrninng, GGoodd affterrnooon orr ggoodd evveniing. TThiss grreettingg iss giivenn too onne wwhomm yoou kknoww onnly sliightt

4、ly, orr too anny oone youu arre ppasssingg quuickkly. HHow aree yoou is usuuallly uusedd whhen youu arre nnot in succh aa huurryy. NNo aanswwer is exppectted othher thaan Fiine, thhankk yoou. hhelllo is thee coommoonesst fformm off grreettingg beetweeen goood ffrieendss.2) Whhen a MMan Raiisess Hiis

5、 HHatIf yoou aare weaarinng aa haat wwhicch ccan be takken bolld oof eeasiily, itt iss cuustoomarry tto rraisse iit ssligghtlly ooff youur hheadd whhen youu grreett a girrl oor aa woomann.3) Whhen to Shaake HanndsIt iss cuustoomarry tto sshakke hhandds wwhenn yoou ffirsst mmeett soomeoone. Annd uusu

6、aallyy frriennds shaake hannds wheen ttheyy meeet aftter nott haavinng sseenn eaach othher forr soome timme. Howweveer iit iis nnot neccesssaryy too shhakee haandss.4) Usse tthe perrsonns NammeIt iss allwayys ggoodd foorm to usee thhe nnamee off thhe ppersson youu arre ggreeetinng. Youu miightt saay

7、, Goood Morrninng, Mr. Mooncrriefff or HHelllo, Fraankllin., A pperssons ssurnnamee shhoulld bbe uusedd unnlesss hhe iis ggoodd frriennd oor sschoool-matte.2. Inntrooducctioon1) Hoow tto IIntrroduuce PeoopleeIn inntrooduccingg twwo ppeopple, thhe ggeneerall ruule is: Inntrooducce ootheer ppeopple to

8、 thee peersoon yyou wissh tto hhonoor. Thee olld aare honnoreed iin tthe Wesst aas iin CChinna. Wommen havve bbeenn hoonouuredd inn thhe WWestt siincee thhe ddayss off knnighhthoood(骑士时时代）.2) Riisinng aat IIntrroduuctiionA mann allwayys rrisee foor aan iintrroduuctiion, exxceppt tthatt itt iss soome

9、ttimees aall rigght forr ann ellderrly mann too reemaiin sseatted wheen aa yooungg maan iis iintrroduucedd too hiim. Thee hoosteess alwwayss riisess foor aan iintrroduuctiion.3) Inntrooduccingg YooursselffIf yoou wwantt too meeet sommeonne, it is bettterr too assk aa frriennd wwho knoow hhim to intt

10、rodducee yoou. Butt soomettimees aat aa meeetiing or gattherringg itt iss alll rrighht tto iintrroduuce youurseelf to a ffelllow-stuudennt, or to onee off thhe ssamee seex aand possitiion.3. Innvittatiion1) Yoou MMustt Reeplyy too ann InnvittatiionForeeignn cuustoom iis mmuchh moore strrictt thhan C

11、hiinesse ccusttom in thee maatteer oof rrepllyinng tto iinviitattionns. Wheen yyou recceivve aan iinviitattionn yoou sshouuld ansswerr itt immmeddiattelyy, ssayiing deffiniitelly wwhettherr yoou aare ablle tto aacceept it or nott.2) Wrrittten or Verrball ReeplyyIf thhe iinviitattionn iss giivenn byy

12、 woord of mouuth, inn coonveersaatioon oor aat aa chhancce mmeettingg, yyou shoouldd annsweer aat ooncee whhethher youu caan ccomee orr noot. If youu caannoot ggivee ann annsweer aat tthatt tiime, yoou mmay sayy, Mayy I lett yoou kknoww thhis eveeninng? Orr soome succh wwordds.4. Inn thhe HHomee1) T

13、hhe RRighht TTimee too ArrrivveWhen invviteed tto llunccheoon, dinnnerr, oor ssuppper, itt iss veery imppoliite to arrrivee laate, ass itt iss ussuallly plaanneed tto hhavee thhe mmeall att thhe eexacct hhourr giivenn inn thhe iinviitattionn.2) Inn arrrivvalWhen youu arrrivve, thee hoosteess or somm

14、e mmembber of thee faamilly wwilll prrobaablyy meeet youu att thhe ddoorr annd ttakee yoour coaat aand hatt. IIn tthe winnterr tiime youu shhoulld ddresss mmoree liighttly thaan uusuaallyy, aas yyou mayy exxpecct tthe roooms to be warrmerr thhan in mosst CChinnesee hoomess.3) Inn a feww miinuttes th

15、ee hoosteess willl aask herr guuestts tto ccomee inn too diinneer. Shee maay oor mmay nott assk eeachh geentllemaan tto ttakee a laddy iin. If shee dooes, thhe lladyy wiill takke tthe genntleemanns armm ass thhey wallk iintoo thhe ddinnningg rooom. Iff shhe ddoess noot, thee laadiees wwilll goo inn

16、fiirstt, ffollloweed bby tthe genntleemenn. TThe hosstesss wwilll eiitheer ppoinnt oout theeir seaats to thee guuestts aas ttheyy coome in or havve a pplacce ccardd att eaach plaace witth tthe gueestss naame on it.4) Hoow LLongg too SttayAfterr thhe mmeall iss ovver it is nott poolitte tto lleavve f

17、for at leaast hallf aan hhourr, llestt yoou sseemm too haave comme oonlyy foor tthe meaal. An eveeninng ddinnner invvitaatioon uusuaallyy immpliies thaat yyou staay ffor thee whholee evveniing. Thhe hhosttesss offtenn pllanss soome aftter-dinnnerr ennterrtaiinmeent.5) Whhat to Sayy onn LeeaviingWhen

18、 leaavinng aany kinnd oof aa paartyy, aa guuestt allwayys eexprressses hiss apppreeciaatioon tto tthe hosstesss. Somme ssuchh woordss ass thhesee arre aapprroprriatte. Thhankk yoou sso mmuchh. IIvee haad aa deeligght eveeninng.5. Taablee Maanneers1) Ass sooon as thee hoosteess piccks up herr naapkii

19、n(餐餐巾）, piick youurs up andd laay iit oon yyourr laap. Sommetiimess a rolll oof bbreaad iis wwrapppedd inn itt; iif sso, tokke iit oour andd puut iit oon yyourr siide plaate.2) Thhe SSoupp CooursseDinneer uusuaallyy beeginns wwithh sooup. Thhe llarggestt sppoonn att yoour plaace is thee sooup spooon

20、. Itt wiill be bessidee yoour plaate at thee riightt-haand sidde.3) Thhe FFishh CooursseIf thheree iss a fissh ccourrse, itt wiill proobabbly follloww thhe ssoupp. TTherre mmay be a sspecciall foork forr thhe ffishh, oor iit mmay be simmilaar tto tthe meaat fforkk. OOfteen iit iis ssmalllerr.4) Thhe

21、 MMeatt CooursseThe mmainn Cooursse iis uusuaallyy seerveed bby tthe hosst hhimsselff, eespeeciaallyy iff itt iss a fowwl(鸡鸡禽） or a rroasst wwhicch nneedd too bee caarveed. He willl oofteen aask eacch gguesst wwhatt piiecee hee prrefeers, annd iit iis qquitte ppropper to staate youur ppreffereencee

22、ass too leean or fatt, ddarkk（红肉肉） oor llighht（白白肉）.5) Ussingg Knnifee annd FForkkIf yoou hhavee Enngliish andd Ammeriicann frriennds youu wiill notticee a feww diiffeerenncess inn thheirr cuustooms of eattingg. FFor thee maain or meaat ccursse, thee Enngliish keeep tthe forrk iin tthe lefft hhandd,

23、 ppoinnt ccurvved dowwnwaard, annd bbrinng tthe foood tto tthe mouuth eittherr byy sttickkingg thhe ppoinnts ontto iit oor iin tthe casse oof ssoftt veegettablles, byy pllaciing it firrmlyy onn thhe fforkk inn thhis possitiion witth tthe kniife. Ammeriicanns ccarvve tthe meaat iin tthe samme pposiit

24、ioon, theen llay dowwn tthe kniife andd taakinng tthe forrk iin tthe rigght hannd wwithh thhe ppoinnt tturnned up, puush it undder a ssmalll ppiecce oof ffoodd wiithoout thee heelp of thee knnifee annd bbrinng iit tto tthe motth rrighht-ssidee-upp.6) Heelpiing Youurseelf andd ReefussinggIf a serrvan

25、nt ppassses foood aarouund, hee wiill passs tthe dissh iin aat yyourr leeft hannd sso tthatt yoou ccan connvennienntlyy seervee yooursselff wiith youur rrighht hhandd. NNeveer sservve yyourrsellf wwhille tthe dissh iis oon yyourr riightt; iit iis tthenn thhe tturnn off yoour neiighbbor on thee riigh

26、tt. IIt iis ppoliite to takke ssomee off evveryythiing thaat iis ppasssed to youu. BBut if theere is sommethhingg yoou mmay nott liike, yoou mmay quiietlly ssay: NNo tthannk yyou.7) Seeconnd HHelppinggsThe hhosttesss maay oor mmay nott assk iif yyou wouuld likke aa seeconnd hhelppingg, aaccoordiing

27、to thee foormaalitty oof tthe meaal. If shee dooes andd yoou aacceept it, yoou sshouuld passs yyourr pllatee too heer oor tto tthe serrvannt wwithh thee knnifee annd fforkk sttilll lyyingg onn itt.8) Thhe SSalaad CCourrseA sallad is eatten witth aa foork onlly hheldd inn thhe rrighht hhandd wiith po

28、iintss tuurneed uup. Theere is usuuallly aa sppeciial onee foor tthe sallad, a litttlee smmalller thaan tthe meaat fforkk.9) Brreadd annd BButtterBreadd iss taakenn inn thhe ffinggerss annd llaidd onn thhe ssidee pllatee orr thhe eedgee off thhe llargge pplatte, it is nevver takke wwithh a forrk. Bu

29、ttterr iss taakenn frrom thee buutteer ddishh wiith thee buutteer kkniffe aand plaacedd onn thhe ssidee pllatee, nnot on onees breead.10) OOtheer TThinngs on thee TaableeWhen theere aree thhinggs oon tthe midddlee off thhe ttablle, succh aas bbreaad, buttterr, jjellly, piccklees, nitts, canndiees, y

30、ouu shhoulld nnot takke aany unttil thee hoosteess ahss suuggeesteed tthatt thhey be passsedd.11) LLeavvingg thhe TTablleIt iss immpollitee foor aa guuestt too leeavee thhe ttablle dduriing a mmeall, oor bbefoore thee hoosteess givves thee siignaal aat tthe endd. WWhenn thhe hhosttesss inndiccatees

31、tthatt thhe ddinnner is oveer, shee wiill staat tto rrisee frrom herr seeat andd alll tthe gueestss shhe rrisee frrom theeirss att thhe ssamee tiime.12) VVariiouss ruuless annd SSugggesttionnsSit uup sstraaighht oon yyourr chhairr; DDo nnot putt muuch foood iin yyourr moouthh att a timme; Driink onl

32、ly wwhenn thheree iss noo foood in youur mmoutth; Tryy noot tto gget intto yyourr moouthh annythhingg thhat willl hhavee too bee taakenn ouut; Do nott maake anyy noose wheen yyou eatt; DDo nnot cleean youur tteetth aat tthe tabble or anyywheere in pubblicc, eeithher witth yyourr fiingeer oor aa tooo

33、thh piick(牙签）, noot eevenn wiith youu toonguue.6. Inn Scchoool1)Greeetiing thee TeeachherIf yoou aare in a vveryy laargee cllasss, iit mmay nott bee neecesssarry tto ggreeet tthe teaacheer oon aarriivinng, butt itt iss allwayys qquitte ppropper if youu haappeen tto ccatcch tthe teaacheerss eyye aas

34、yyou entter.2) Coominng LLateeIt iss baad mmannnerss too coome latte tto cclasss. If youu arre uunavvoiddablly llatee ann appoloogy shoouldd bee maade to thee teeachher eittherr att thhe ttimee orr affterr cllasss.3) Taalkiing in ClaassIt iff baad mmannnerss inn thhe sschooolrroomm, aas eelseewheere

35、, too taalk whiile anyyonee ellse is takkingg.7. Inn Puubliic PPlacces1) Trrafffic LawwsThe ccomiing of thee mootorr caar mmadee deefinnitee trrafffic laww annd rreguulattionns aa prractticaal nneceessiity. Too obbey theese laww iss noot sso mmuchh a mattterr off cuurtssey(礼貌） as a mmoraal oobliigat

36、tionn（义务务）.2) Foor PPeopple WallkinngPeoplle wwalkkingg shhoulld kkeepp too thhe ssideewallks andd shhoulld kkeepp too thhe rrighht oof tthe siddewaalk.3) Thhe TTheaaterrThe ttheaaterr prropeer iis mmoree foormaal tthann thhe mmoviies. Att thhe ttheaaterr beest cloothees aare in ordder; evveniing cl

37、oothees aare oftten worrn.4) Thhe MMoviiesThe mmoviies aree moore infformmal. Anny kkindd off reespeectaablee cllothhes mayy bee woorn, annd ssmalll cconffecttionn(糖果果） mmay be eatten quiietlly aas llongg ass thheree arre nno oobjeectiionaablee noosess too annnoyy onness neeighhborrs.5) Inn Chhurcch

38、It iss ussuall foor aanyoone atttenddingg chhurcch tto ttakee soome monney aloong forr thhe ooffeerinng, as it is a rreguularr paart of eveery chuurchh seerviice andd iss ussed forr thhe wworkk off thhe cchurrch. Goood cloothees, butt neeverr evveniing cloothees, aree woorn to a cchurrch serrvicce.8

39、. Sppeciial Occcasiionss1) BiirthhdayyBirthhdayy inn thhe WWestt, aas iin CChinna, aree coonsiiderred occcasiionss foor cconggrattulaatioons andd soomettimees ffor giffts froom nnearr frriennds.2)Thee WeeddiingIf onne rreceeivees aan aannoounccemeent of a wwedddingg affterr itt iss ovver, a notte oo

40、f cconggrattulaatioon mmay be sennt, butt a gifft iis nnot neccesssaryy.3) Thhe FFuneerallFunerralss, oof ccourrse, arre aalwaays sannd, butt thhe ttenddenccy iin WWestternn coounttriees iis aagaiinstt maakinng aany shoow oof oones ffeellinggs aat tthe funneraal. Thee iddea behhindd thhis is thaat t

41、the perrsonn deead wouuld wissh tthiss laast meeetinng oof hhis friiendds iin hhis honnor andd reememmbraancee too bee fuull of tennderr, hhapppy rrecoolleectiionss off hiis llifee.9. Wiith Strranggerss annd FFrieendss1) Leendiing andd boorroowinng aare morre mmattterss off prrincciplle iin tthe Wes

42、st tthann inn thhe EEastt. TThinngs borrrowwed in thee Weest aree deefinniteely exppectted to be retturnned, whhethher it is fiffty dolllarrs oor mmereely a ffrieends ppenccil.2) Doontt Bee CuurioousIt iss immpollitee too bee cuurioous aboout thee prrivaate afffairrs oof ootheers, suuch as agee, ssa

43、laary, reeliggionn annd mmarrriagge.3) Thhankks ffor GifftsWhen somme oone givves youu a preesennt, it is verry iimpoolitte tto nnegllectt thhankk hiim ffor it.4) Onne HHandd OnnlyIn chhinaa wee usse ttwo hannds wheen ggiviing sommethhingg too a perrsonn, oor wwhenn reeceiivinng iit, if we wannt tto

44、 bbe vveryy poolitte. In thee Weest thiis wwoulld sseemm awwkwaard andd immpollitee.10. PPerssonaal HHabiits andd Apppeaarannce1) Peeoplle jjudgge yyou at firrst by whaat ttheyy seee, so parrticculaar aatteentiion shoouldd bee paaid to youur pperssonaal aappeearaancee.2) Ussingg a HanndkeerchhieffAl

45、wayys ccarrry aa clleann haandkkercchieef. Do nott usse iit wwhille iit iis ffoldded, annd ddo nnot folld iit aafteer yyou usee itt.3)SpiittiingIn thhe WWestt itt iss coonsiiderred verry iimpoolitte tto sspitt, eevenn uppon thee sttreeet.4) SmmokiingSmokiing is verry pprevvaleent(普遍), booth by menn

46、annd bby wwomeen. If youu arre aa guuestt inn a homme wwherre nno ootheers aree smmokiing, itt iss beetteer tto rrefrrainn(忍住住） ffromm smmokiing, yoou mmay sayy, Wouuld youu miind if I ssmokked?.11. SSomee Poointts ffor Menn1) Wiith a LLadyyAlwayys aalloow tthe laddy tto ppreccedee yoou iin pplacces

47、 wheere onee haas tto ggo bbefoore thee ottherr exxceppt iin tthe folllowwingg caase: whhen getttinng ooff a sstreeet carr, ttraiin, buss, oor oout of an auttomoobille; wheen ggoinng uup sstaiir; wheen oopenningg a heaavy dooor. Wheen yyou aree waalkiing aloong thee sttreeet wwithh a laddy, alwwayss

48、 waalk on thee ouutsiide.2) Att a DannceIf yoou wwishh too daancee wiith a ccerttainn laady, goo too heer, boww, aand sayy: Mayy I havve tthe pleeasuure of a ddancce?Selecctedd frrom Wessterrn MMannnerss byy Eaarl andd Kaathaarinne WWilllmonntt andd trransslatted by Wann Roongffangg西方礼仪为什么打招招呼？在欧欧美国

49、家家见面打打招呼是是很自然然的，即即使是不不认识。打打招呼的的目的，并并不是为为了要跟跟你有进进一步的的交往，只只是一种种生活礼礼仪形式式。其实实不论任任何人，面面对有人人微笑打打招呼，都都会受到到感染，像像是见到到阳光心心情跟着着好起来来一样，很很自然会会打招呼呼响应。因因此，在在西方国国家旅游游的时候候，如果果迎面而而来的人人对我们们说哈啰啰，别露露出一副副莫名其其妙的表表情，甚甚至置之之不理唷唷！那可可是非常常失礼的的。怎样样打招呼呼？对方跟跟你说Howw doo yoou ddo ?就是是你好好的意意思，不不用按着着课本教教的说Finne, Thaank youu. AAnd youu

50、?，除除非这是是你的好好朋友，或或是你有有比较多多的时间间跟他聊聊天，不不然只要要同样回回答说Howw doo yoou ddo ?就够够了。如如果怕自自己英文文不好听听，至少少微笑点点个头。有有时候他他们会说说Heelloo !，其实实相当于于我们的的嗨，这是是同辈或或好友之之间的应应对方式式，不适适合用在在对长辈辈或地位位比较高高的人。另另外，他他们也会会问候Goood mmornningg，Goood aafteernooon或GGoodd evveniing，同样样问候就就可以了了。怎样样吃饭？中中国人吃吃饭比较较随兴，很很可能聊聊到开心心处，就就大声说说笑，或或是把餐餐厅当作作自己家

51、家一样让让小孩子子跑来跑跑去，这这在西方方国家是是相当不不得体的的喔！尤尤其如果果我们是是吃西式式餐厅，而而不是在在中国餐餐厅，一一定要注注意餐桌桌礼节。餐餐巾应该该要铺放放在腿上上，不是是别在领领口上的的，更不不可以拿拿餐巾来来擦桌子子或餐具具！使用用刀叉的的时候，倒倒没有禁禁忌不可可以拿着着叉子讲讲话，因因为在外外国，放放下餐具具表示你你已经吃吃完，准准备请服服务生来来收走了了。当然然啦，如如果要比比手画脚脚的时候候例外，毕毕竟拿着着刀叉挥挥舞还是是挺不安安全的！享享用食物物的时候候安静是是基本的的礼貌，像像是喝汤汤、嚼食食物都不不应该出出声音，打打嗝的声声音尤其其会惹人人白眼，万万一打嗝

52、嗝发出了了声音，应应该对同同桌的人人说EExcuuse me表示歉歉意。千千万不要要塞得满满嘴的食食物，慢慢慢一口口一口吃吃。发表表意见时时，应该该等食物物完全吞吞下去之之后再讲讲话，不不可以一一边嚼一一边讲话话。如果果有鱼刺刺或骨头头，应该该尽量先先用刀叉叉挑出来来或切除除掉，再再放到嘴嘴里面，不不适合嚼嚼一嚼之之后再用用嘴巴吐吐出来，假假如不得得已必须须要这样样做，也也最好悄悄悄地、稍稍微用餐餐巾布遮遮掩一下下比较好好喔。 零零零总总总谈了一一些基本本西方礼礼仪，其其实最基基本的还还是爸妈妈平时生生活教养养的功夫夫。如果果常常提提醒孩子子遵守礼礼貌规矩矩，让孩孩子懂得得规范自自己、尊尊重别

53、人人，相信信在国外外旅游的的时候，也也能很快快就适应应不同的的礼节了了！中国国自古就就是礼仪仪之邦，西西方的礼礼仪和我我国有许许多的相相似之处处。在当当前国际际交往频频繁的形形式下，不不论是在在国内接接待外宾宾或出国国访问旅旅游，不不论是将将要留学学国外或或常驻国国外工作作都有必必要学习习一下西西方的礼礼仪。 礼节有有两个方方面：其其一要从从内心去去关心他他人的需需要和情情感；其其二要以以一定的的行为方方式表现现出来，由由此人们们通常可可以判断断我们家家庭教养养的状况况。礼节节的实质质就是处处处为别别人着想想，这也也就是要要实行那那条金笺笺：你想想别人怎怎样对待待你，你你就该怎怎样对待待别人。

54、所所谓考虑虑他人的的要点就就是要使使自己的的衣着和和举止尽尽可能让让人喜欢欢。一看看到衣着着雅致、彬彬彬有礼礼的人，你你就会觉觉得日常常生活增增添了许许多乐趣趣。相反反，看到到的是衣衣着不整整，礼节节不周的的人，你你就会有有明显的的缺少什什幺以及及不舒服服和烦恼恼的感觉觉。中国国的礼节节与西方方的礼节节有时差差别很大大。如果果你想同同西方人人相处和和谐，了了解西方方的礼节节是非常常重要的的。 最简单单的问候候是说一一声早上好好、下午好好，或晚上好好。这种种问候可可以用于于你不太太熟悉的的人或者者任何与与你匆匆匆擦肩而而过的人人。若你你不很匆匆忙时，对对不认识识的人可可说一声声你好，回答答你的也

55、也应该是是你好。当你第第一次与与别人见见面时，通通常要握握手。此此外，久久违的朋朋友相见见时，通通常也要要握手。然然而，相相遇时不不握手也也行,微微鞠鞠一个躬躬,也是很很有礼貌貌的。如如果谁要要和你握握手，你你当然要要同他握握手-拒绝握握手是非非常不礼礼貌的。通通常是由由年龄大大的一方方或者女女子先伸伸出手。你在向别人问好时，直呼别人的姓名也常常是得体的。你可以说；早上好，蒙克里夫先生或你好，富兰克林。有些问候在中国是合乎礼节的，而在西方却不被采用。如果你问候一个西方人说你上哪儿去?（Where are you going?）或说你去哪儿啦？（Where have you been?）他会想你

56、在打听他的私事，实在是太失礼了。而如果你说：你吃过了吗？（Have you had your dinner?），他可能会认为你想邀请他与你共同进餐。因此，和西方人相处时，你最好使用西方通常的问候方式。当你受到邀请时，你必须立即作复，明确地说明你究竟能不能接受这次邀请。如果对方是在谈话中或偶然遇见时口头提出邀请的，你就应该立刻回答能不能去。如果当时不能回答，你可以说?quot;我今晚告诉你，行吗？或诸如此类的话。但不管是口头邀请还是书面邀请，都应当给予明确的回答。通常来说，表示你的确不能接受邀请的客气的办法是说出你不能不谢绝的理由。只是说一声我不能去或我不去是不礼貌的。说一声对不起也是不够的。只

57、说一声谢谢，那就只能使人莫名其妙，不知你到底是接受邀请，还是谢绝邀请。如果你接受了邀请，忽然有事不能赴约。你应当把你不能前往的真实原因告诉对方，接受了邀请而又不赴约是一件极不礼貌的事情。在经历了饮食习惯的历史沿革之后，当我们都围坐在铺着雪白桌布、摆着锃亮刀叉的餐桌旁时，吃饭已经从只为了充饥的需求而发展成为一种令人愉快在复杂的社会习俗。今天，在你应邀赴宴的时候，你对同桌进餐的人和餐桌上的谈话，大概比对饮食要更感兴趣。实际进餐时，应该尽可能少一些声响，少一些动作。女主人一拿起餐巾时，你也就可以拿起你的餐巾，放在腿上。有时餐巾中包有一只小面包；如果是 那样的话, 就把它取出，放在旁边的小碟上。在西方

58、，汽车有优先通行权。几个人肩并肩地排成一行走是不礼貌的。因为那样会妨碍别人行走或耽搁别人的时间。西方店铺，除极少数外，都对商品明码标价，没有讨价还价的习惯。店员们都很客气，尽力为顾客找到满意的商品。顾客也必须很客气，如果看了好几件物品以后，一件都不想买，顾客可以说: 恐怕这些都不是我所需要的，麻烦你了，多谢。谢谢你（Thank you）这名话在西方比在中国用得要更加频繁得多。任何人替你做了一些事，不管事情多小，也不管他是你的上司还是佣人，你都应该说：谢谢你。你讲话完毕以后，千万不要向听众致谢。不要说：谢谢你们，我谢谢你们，或多谢你们注意听我讲话等。讲话完毕时，略微欠欠身就够了，不必要多讲什幺。

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